For some it brings up ideas about empowerment that are positive and desirable. For others, the word "power" brings up negative associations like greed, ego, domination, selfishness, control and abuse.
Separating out these two faces of power is extremely important if we hope to be empowered women.
In over twenty years of working with women, I have seen that women often abandon their powerful attributes because of the negative associations surrounding the concept of power. They can be shamed for showing up powerfully -- judged as being too controlling or bossy or just too much. So, overtime we learn to hide our power, play small and diminish our value. We don't even realize we are doing this and it takes a toll on us. We lose our self-confidence and defer to others for authority. And, we end up creating relationships and a life that is much less than we desire and deserve.
The positive side of power is about standing in our value, claiming our sovereignty, keeping boundaries and staying true to ourselves. It's about having agency in the world—effecting positive change whether that is a humanitarian project that supports people or a creative project that inspires people. When a woman owns her power, she knows her value and doesn't settle for anything less than she deserves. She uses her financial resources and creative life force to uplift humanity. We need women to be change-makers, rulers and leaders.
We access the positive side of power when:
We use our voice to speak up for injustice.
We own our value.
We protect ourselves from negative and domineering people.
We don’t put up with bad behavior from others.
We don't chain ourselves to work that is soul-sucking.
We change our course as needed.
We don't apologize for who we are.
We fulfill our potential.
Ask yourself if you are truly owning your value and fulfilling your potential in life or are you limiting and diminishing yourself at every turn?
Are you giving your power away or standing in your sovereignty?
Even if you see yourself as a powerful women, I encourage you to ask yourself these questions. It just might change your life.
Be Bold, Be Brilliant, Be You!
Joy Balma, MA, MA is a women's leadership mentor, personality type expert and bestselling author. She is the founder of The Good Girl to Goddess Academy where she helps women rock their personality strengths, own their power and fulfill their potential. www.joybalma.com